Rs19 - week1
Have everyone in the room share about their “non-negotiable” when looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Ephesians 4:17-24 MSG
“And so I insist—and God backs me up on this—that there be no going along with the crowd, the empty-headed, mindless crowd. They’ve refused for so long to deal with God that they’ve lost touch not only with God but with reality itself. They can’t think straight anymore. Feeling no pain, they let themselves go in sexual obsession, addicted to every sort of perversion.
But that’s no life for you. You learned Christ! My assumption is that you have paid careful attention to him, been well instructed in the truth precisely as we have it in Jesus. Since, then, we do not have the excuse of ignorance, everything—and I do mean everything—connected with that old way of life has to go. It’s rotten through and through. Get rid of it! And then take on an entirely new way of life—a God-fashioned life, a life renewed from the inside and working itself into your conduct as God accurately reproduces his character in you.”
Q1 - What is the purpose of being in a relationship?
Q2 - Do you think it’s important to prepare for marriage now, even at your age? • How does your relationship with Christ affect your relationship with others?
Have everyone begin to write out a vision statement for their dating relationships.
“Until you are the right one, you can even turn somebody who would’ve been a great partner with you into the wrong one because you’re not ready.”
Q3 - Have you ever thought that if you found the right person you would be happy? From where do you get your happiness?
Q4 - Are you in a relationship for which you are not ready? Would it be beneficial for you to take some “time off” from dating to become the one?
“If Satan can get us focused on what we don’t have then he can distract us from pursuing the things of God.”
Q5 - What are some ways that you’ve experienced the devil trying to distract you? (Leaders: have examples prepared.)
Q6 - How can Satan use dating relationships to distract you? Has he distracted you in these ways in past relationships? How do you safeguard yourself in future relationships from these distractions?
“You need to develop such a great vision that it will give you restraint.”
Q7 - How can having a vision for your dating relationships give you restraint and help you resist sin and temptation?
Proverbs 29:18 Where there is no vision, the people cast off restraint; but blessed is he who keeps the law.
“Preparation time is not the same as wasted time.”
“When we feel like we’re missing out on what those who are in a relationship have, we can flip the script and remind ourselves that they are missing out on what I have. That I am putting my time into an eternal relationship and building a strong foundation.”
Q8 - Are you viewing your time as a single student as preparation time or wasted time?
Q9 - What can you do to embrace the season of preparation? How can you use it to build a strong foundation?
Q10 FOR GIRLS ONLY - Do you over-think or overanalyze interactions with guys to make it seem like a more significant interaction? In the end, how do you feel after overanalyzing a situation or manipulating it?
God, thank you for always preparing us for what is ahead. We recognize that each student can be distracted from the race you have set before them. We pray that you would give us the ability to stay true to our race and seek your face in the midst of distraction. I pray that you will give all of us the confidence to embrace the season of life that we are in. We ask that you would quiet the enemy and teach us to turn our ear from him. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Encourage each student to bring a friend to RS19 WEEK2 and to next week’s C-Group. Make a commitment to be at each group meeting during this study.