Rs19 - week2



Each student shares 2 truths and 1 lie about relationships they’ve been in or what they want in a potential spouse.


‭‭Philippians ‭4:11-12 NIV‬‬

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.


“Dating should be preparation for marriage... Dating is not wrong, but it’s dangerous... You’re giving parts of your heart away.”

Q1 -
Have you ever experienced a destructive dating relationship? Have you been in one that did more harm than good?

Q2 - How can we begin to be honest with ourselves when we know that we shouldn’t be pursuing a certain relationship? What steps do we need to take to avoid those relationships?

“You have to ask yourself if you’re strong enough spiritually to carry the weight of another relationship.”

Q3 - What does it look like to be “strong enough spiritually” to have a positive, Christ-centered relationship?

“Sometimes if you enter into a relationship prematurely you limit your world. You end up shutting out the rest of the world.”

Q4 - Do you agree that it is not beneficial to shut out the rest of the world when you enter a relationship? If you are in a relationship, how can you make sure that you don’t shut out the rest of the world?

One of the ways you can know you are ready for a dating relationship is by listening to certain people in your life to gain perspective. He speaks about the importance of having people, older and wiser, that can speak into your life spiritually.

Q5 - Who are the people in your life that can give you Godly perspective? Will you be honest with them and take their perspective into consideration?

“Sin happens when I try to meet or fill a God-given desire outside of God’s intended design.”

Q6 - What are some ways that you’ve given too much of yourself in a relationship? (“Not just sexual, it’s emotional too.”)

“You know you’re ready to date when you don’t need to.” “I’m really not ready to have it until I don’t need it.”

Q7 - What is the difference between wanting to date and needing to date?


Have everyone go around the room and share one characteristic of the type of person they want to marry.


“How can I follow this man if he’s not first submitted to following Christ?”

Q8 - What are some indicators that a guy has submitted himself to follow Christ?

Q9 - Are you willing to make these indicators a “make-or-break” in your relationships?


Q8 - What are some indicators that a girl has submitted herself to follow Christ?

Q9 - Are you willing to make these indicators a “make-or-break” in your relationships?

Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.

Q10 - Boundaries measure value. Would you say the friends you hang out with have good sexual boundaries? What does this tell you about their personal value?

Q11 - Do you think the sexual boundaries you have established equate to an accurate value on yourself? Do your values make you a prized possession or not?


Q12 - What kinds of sexual boundaries do you want to set in your next relationship? Are you willing to be called weird by your friends in order to stay sexually pure and avoid compromising your integrity before God?

Q13 - What is the value in staying pure?


Dear Jesus, We come before you today grateful for the life you have given us and your unconditional love. God, we have all made mistakes, and we pray that you would help us to use those mistakes as a ministry to reach our friends who are dealing with similar situations. We desire to see purity as a blessing and not a burden. Help us walk in the truth that our purity is only a gift from you and we do not have to earn it. Amen.


Encourage each student to bring a friend to RS19 WEEK3 and to next week’s C-Group. Make a commitment to be at each group meeting during this study.

Sign everyone up for Relationship Foundations class beginning March 4th.